Dealing with a narcissist will make you question your reality. They’ll lie, deflect, twist, guilt-trip, and flip the blame so well that you end up apologizing for being hurt. Truth is, you can’t win an argument with someone who isn’t interested in truth — only control. You won’t get closure from someone who benefits from your confusion. And you sure as hell won’t find peace by trying to fix them. So don’t waste your energy trying to explain yourself better. Don’t fall into the trap of proving your pain. Don’t wait for an apology that’s never coming. The best way to deal with a narcissist? Boundaries. Silence. Distance. Clarity. The moment you stop engaging is the moment you take your power back.
When someone hurts you... and somehow you end up apologising for being upset about it... that's not a healthy dynamic. That's emotional manipulation. Gaslighting doesn't always sound like, "You're crazy." Sometimes, it sounds like… "You're overreacting” “You're too sensitive" "I didn't mean it like that." They flip the script so well, you start questioning your own feelings, and apologising... just to keep the peace. But here's the truth: You're not wrong for reacting. You're not difficult for having boundaries. And you're definitely not the problem for expecting respect. If every conflict leaves you confused, guilty, or saying sorry for what they did... it's not a misunderstanding. It's gaslighting.
Don’t get into a relationship with anyone until you can honestly answer these two questions… Am I actually healed… or just hoping someone else will stop the bleeding? Do I really want this person… or do I just want someone to save me from loneliness?