1. Be a great observer. People notice when you notice. Pay attention to names, subtle shifts in energy, and what others overlook. Observation builds trust and power without a single word. 2. Master the “neutral expensive” look. Tailored basics. Real leather. Natural fabrics. No loud logos, no trend-chasing. It’s the kind of style that whispers, “I belong,” not “look at me.” 3. Audit your conversation skills. The goal isn’t to impress, it’s to connect. Ask thoughtful, slightly playful questions that make people feel interesting. 4. Choose 1–2 soft power hobbies. Join polo lessons, wine tastings, art workshops, beginner level is fine. Presence matters more than perfection. 5. Become a regular in refined places. Think: the elegant hotel bar, the boutique café, the curated bookstore. Show up often enough to be recognized. Familiarity breeds credibility. 6. Build “trust signals” into your online presence. Clean, intentional photos. Mentions of meaningful projects or places (never bragging). 7. Stay slightly mysterious. Oversharing kills intrigue. The most magnetic people reveal themselves slowly. 8. Speak status fluently, without flaunting it. Reference things like travel, art, or high-level ideas in passing. It’s not about showing off; it’s about signaling shared context. 9. Curate your space like you curate your presence. Even if you’re renting: invest in scent, lighting, and a few conversation-piece objects. Your environment should leave a sensory impression. 10. Know when to disappear. Don’t overstay. Be the person who leaves while the energy’s still high. That’s what keeps you memorable. For more follow @janoschgrab #unspokenrules #lifebydesign #minimalmindset #disciplineovermotivation